| Few things are as rewarding as seeing
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| | "one on one" time with each child. Try to
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| your child glow from the inside out. And
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| | come up with a shared activity that
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| it happens when children have a high self
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| | honors what each of you enjoy. My
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| esteem: when they know themselves to be
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| | daughter loves to go on a date to
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| unconditionally accepted, when they feel
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| | Starbucks, just the two of us, for a
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| both loved and lovable, and when they
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| | shared Double Chocolate Chip Frappucino.
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| feel a sense of belonging and self
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| | The other likes to go to the library
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| worth.Here are twelve simple activities
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| | where we each choose special books. The
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| that have really made a difference in our
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| | other likes to ride his tricycle up and
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| family. These are the rituals that I find
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| | down the neighborhood streets with me
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| especially important to staying connected
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| | running alongside. This does not have to
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| and to communicating my love and
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| | take a lot of time and can involve an
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| appreciation for each child.1. Rely on
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| | activity that you would be doing anyway.
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| rituals to help you reconnect. We have
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| | You can even decide to allow one child to
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| such a ritual following every school day.
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| | go to bed a bit later each week so you
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| The kids think of it as "after school
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| | have some time alone to chat, read
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| snack time" but I know it to be much more
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| | together, or play a game of cards.7.
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| than that. It is a time when they tell me
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| | Create a safe environment. It has been
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| whatever they like about their day. Try
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| | really important for us to make the kids
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| to create this special time as soon as
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| | know it is safe to make mistakes. As
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| possible after their day away at school.
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| | someone who has battled perfectionism in
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| I find that if I wait until later in the
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| | the past, I know that the unconditional
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| evening to ask them the same open ended
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| | acceptance of a family is vital. When
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| questions, I hear mostly "I do not
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| | your home is a safe place for your
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| remember" and "Everything was fine." For
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| | children to share their mistakes and
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| us, immediacy is important, and so is the
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| | perceived failures as well as their
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| ability to sit and listen without
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| | triumphs, you foster a sense of safety
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| offering too much unsolicited advice.
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| | and acceptance. You might want to share
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| Family dinners are another wonderful time
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| | times in your own life when you made a
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| to reconnect.2. Create special time for
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| | mistake (or even those times when a
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| just your immediate family. To do this,
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| | perceived mistake was actually a
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| you may need to set gentle boundaries for
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| | blessing.) And try to pay close attention
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| neighbors and friends. For example, we
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| | to an overemphasis on criticizing or
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| have a neighborhood filled with very
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| | correcting your child, as well as to an
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| close relationships and no fewer than 14
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| | overemphasis of criticizing things that
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| young children. When we first moved in,
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| | other people do.8. Engage your children
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| we had kids knocking on our door from the
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| | in the tasks of the household. This
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| crack of dawn till way past the sun set
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| | fosters a sense of belongingness and
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| in the evening. We found that our time
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| | personal responsibility, a mutual respect
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| alone as a family was diminishing by the
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| | and a sense of teamwork. There are jobs
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| day as our younger children would run
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| | that children of all ages can do. Maybe
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| outside to play at the first invitation,
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| | it is setting the table or passing out
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| and the competition from such a fun
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| | the napkins. My three year old son likes
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| outdoor world really disrupted the
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| | to help me sweep the floor, but I suspect
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| closeness of certain special family
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| | he really just likes to play broom hockey
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| times. It did not take long before our
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| | with the crumbs. At some point, they grow
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| family relationship was feeling the
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| | up enough where their efforts to help are
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| stress, so we chose a symbol that is
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| | actually helpful. One child likes to help
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| universally accepted and respected
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| | me make dinner, another likes to help me
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| throughout the neighborhood: when the
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| | clean up. We are still working on my
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| curtains on our front windows are drawn,
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| | son.9. Make simple occasions special. The
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| the neighborhood children know that we
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| | kids love it when we turn off all the
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| are having time together as a family.
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| | lights at dinner and eat by candlelight.
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| When the curtains open for the day, we
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| | It makes them feel treasured, and we talk
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| welcome the neighborhood children with
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| | about how just a simple change in the way
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| open arms. I hope this gentle boundary
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| | we do things can make all the
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| sends a message to our kids, too, that it
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| | difference.10. Show your enthusiasm. I
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| is okay (essential, even) to take time
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| | remember as a child, even if my mom or
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| out for yourself and for nurturing the
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| | dad was embroiled in a task, I knew that
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| relationships with your closest loved
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| | they were happy I was around. The deep
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| ones.3. Give each child tangible
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| | roots of self esteem that come from such
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| reminders of your love. You could write a
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| | a knowing have affected everything I have
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| note to your child on each birthday,
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| | done since. Even if you are busy, make
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| detailing events over the past year that
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| | sure your enthusiasm shows when your
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| made you particularly proud and
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| | child walks into the room. You do not
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| spotlighting traits that make him or her
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| | have to stop what you are doing. Just
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| special. Or keep a jar, box, or journal
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| | send them signals, verbal or nonverbal,
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| titled "Things I Love About You" and add
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| | that you are happy they arrived.11.
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| notes to it whenever they occur to you.
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| | Praise. So much has been said lately
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| Whenever your child is feeling down, he
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| | about the danger of overpraising a child,
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| or she can spend a few moments with these
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| | and it is certainly important to be
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| treasures.4. Develop a special song or
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| | careful when offering praise. You want
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| phrase for each of your children. My
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| | the child to reward themselves internally
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| second child, for example, has always
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| | for a job well done, and not to be
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| adored the song "You are my sunshine,"
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| | constantly looking for a carrot. I have
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| but part of the song defines the
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| | recently heard it said that the most
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| relationship in terms of exclusivity.
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| | positive kind of praise occurs when you
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| ("You are my sunshine, my only
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| | are praising their personal judgment, and
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| sunshine.") So we had to adapt it for
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| | I think that is very wise. Lots of
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| each of the other children. To do this,
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| | healthy praise is a beautiful thing.12.
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| we substituted a special word for each
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| | Reflect often on the beauty (and the
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| child and that has become their own
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| | power) of parenting. Here is a ritual
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| special song. My son is Moonshine and my
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| | from my household: Once my children have
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| older daughter is Starshine. (In case you
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| | fallen asleep at night, I watch them
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| are wondering, Mom is Heartshine and Dad
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| | peacefully sleep for a few moments and
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| is SuperHeroshine. No kidding.) Even as
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| | think about how much happiness they
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| they get older, they love to hear their
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| | created that day for me. I try to quiet
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| own special song and they love to sing
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| | my mind, just for a moment or two, and
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| the songs to one another, too.5. Use
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| | think about how very much I adore them.
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| repetitive phrases to teach important
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| | Meditating on this inner knowing, however
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| life lessons. With my oldest child, we
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| | briefly, can make it easier to be
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| are working to help her feel a sense of
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| | tolerant of those little things that all
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| control over her own emotions. Whenever
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| | children do to drive us nuts. It is also
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| something comes up, we say these words
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| | helpful to think often about how
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| repeatedly: "You can not choose what
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| | instrumental your love will be to their
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| people do, but you can choose how you
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| | happiness and their worldview both now
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| react to it." I have heard her say it
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| | and way off into the future.Susie
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| now, too, to her younger siblings. Choose
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