The Transitional Roller Coaster

Are you in a transitional time of your life? If you aren'tdidn't cry at recess today. Embracing the positive gives
now, you will be eventually. Read these tips to helpus the energy to muddle through the lows.
you or anyone you know through any life change.Accept the Muck
Everywhere I turn, moms are in transition. Of course,How about that duck in the truck who's stuck in the
the most obvious transition many of us are facing rightmuck? It's pretty yucky in the muck, but certainly a
now is back to school. But transitions are all around us,necessary and normal part of transitions. If we don't
some of which are more recognizable than others.wade through the muck, how can we appreciate its
These are some of the transitions that have touchedopposite - getting clear? Confusion is often a part of
my life, directly or indirectly, over the past month:transitions that most people would rather avoid. But if
§ Learning to be a single mommy and divorceeyou can relax and accept the confusion for what it is,
§ Navigating through menopauseclarity will come. Use the confusion to search your soul
§ Developing a new business visionand discover new things about yourself and life. The
§ Starting a new jobmucky water will soon become crystal clear.
§ A child entering a new developmental phase (i.e.Make it a Lesson in Learning
the terrible twos)What can you learn from a transition? As you struggle
§ Getting remarriedto deal with your two year old's newfound
§ Finding out that a 2nd child is on the wayindependence, what are you learning about yourself as
§ Changing preschools or daycare providersa parent? What do you know about two year olds,
§ Questioning a current careerand what is yet to learn? Transitions are great
§ Moving into different living arrangementsopportunities to learn more about who we are and
§ Entering a new phase of marriagewho we aren't. It's a chance to grow and stretch
Sometimes we ease into a transition, but others timesourselves. Sure, it can be uncomfortable at first, but the
we're thrown in, leaving us struggling to find the lifeend result is a better you, a more mature outlook, an
preserver. Some transitions are short, while othersexpanded vision of life, or a transformative revelation.
make us wonder if the end will ever come. TransitionsA transition is merely another chapter in your life's
can be unwelcome and unexpected; transitions canlesson book.
also be a planned breath of fresh air. No matter howThere is a Light at the End of the Tunnel
we get into a transitional period of our lives, here areTransitions do not last forever. It's true we can get
some tips to help us navigate our way throughstuck for awhile, but eventually there is a light at the
transitions.end of the tunnel. A two year old turns three. The pain
Ride the Waveof divorce goes away. The learning curve at the
A transition is like a roller coaster, with its ups andbeginning of a new job fades and is replaced with
downs. Get your balance and integrate the changesroutine. The new house in the new town becomes
into your daily life. Take it slow so you don't fall down"home". And you don't have to wait until the transition is
and overwhelm yourself. Give yourself some time toover to experience the "light". The "light" can come in
get used to the wave - we don't learn to surfthe form of support throughout your transitional time.
overnight. And you won't transition in one or two days.Your light is your hope that things can be "normal"
Expect the waters to be a little rough at first; this willagain. Reach out to loving family members and friends,
help you adjust your expectations.professionals and mentors that can help you through.
Look For and Embrace the HighsThere is one thing for sure. If you're not in a transition
Every transition, wanted or not, has positive momentstoday, you will be eventually. So ride the wave,
or outcomes. Your job is to search for and recognizeembrace the highs, accept the muck, and capture the
them. There have been tears during my son'slessons. Transitions are a normal part of life, and you
kindergarten transition, but we celebrate each momentwill get through them.
of progress and joy. He made a new friend or he